Tie Me Up. Tie Me Down this Valentine’s Day! Find Your Passion & Release the Dominatrix

A spicy dinner, red balloons, roses, sexy music and chocolate-covered strawberries, love is definitely in air. February is the month where the cherubic winged-little person works overtime… and so do the chocolate factories.

The day is February 14 (or Dia de los Novios) and on this day Latinos are expressing their love for each other. It is also a time when many couples will try something new in the bedroom, indulging in some type of fantasy.

Many people, including Latinos, have fantasies involving role-playing, fetishes and bondage. Growing up in Hispanic, our culture has traditional roles of men being dominant and women being submissive. Why not pull a switch-a-roo and have the ladies be dominant.

BDSM (Bondage. Discipline. Sadism. Masochism) is a form of consensual role play between two or more individuals, who use their experiences of pain and power to create sexual tension, pleasure, and release.  It’s a great way to build a strong sexual foundation and a interpersonal relationship between you and your Latin lover.

As the song by the Divinyl’s goes,”It’s a fine line between pleasure and pain…you’ve done it once, you will do it again…”

An important thing to remember is that BDSM is NOT a crime. The fundamental principles of this practice require that it be performed by mature and responsible partners, of their own volition, and in a safe way.

This mutual consent makes a clear legal and ethical distinction between BDSM and crimes such as sexual assault or domestic violence.

Plus, it is always possible for one of the consenting partners to withdraw his or her consent at any time by using a “safe word” that was agreed upon in advance.

With that said, there are many ways Latinas can participate in safe, fun and very erotic BDSM adventures. You may remember the boy in the corner who purposely forgets his homework simply so the teacher will teach him a lesson, and remember that bossy girl who makes fun of the weak kids. These folks could easily grow into the kinkiest and erotically in-tune adults, and maybe one day find each other.

Once you figure out the roles, start small. Maybe one of you has some specific requests, a foot fetish or blindfolds perhaps? Someone with a foot fetish would prefer sexy shoes or boots, or someone who likes to be blindfolded may require a selection of soft eye covers.

Want to try some bondage? Then get some sexy restraints. You can get wrist cuffs and ankle cuffs that can be used to hold your partner to a chair, post, the bed etc. You can also try some silky bondage rope. Get a book on different rope tying techniques and then practice tying each other up and having your way with them.

Role-playing is another way to explore your BDSM side. Be the sexy Catholic school girl, the naughty nurse or sassy secretary and let your “Don Juan” transform into the horny fireman or police officer. The sailor and the prostitute is also a great role-playing fantasy.

Keep trying new things and explore each other and remember – have fun! Feliz Dia de los Novios.