Tie Me Up. Tie Me Down this Valentine’s Day! Find Your Passion & Release the Dominatrix

A spicy dinner, red balloons, roses, sexy music and chocolate-covered strawberries, love is definitely in air. February is the month where the cherubic winged-little person works overtime… and so do the chocolate factories.

The day is February 14 (or Dia de los Novios) and on this day Latinos are expressing their love for each other. It is also a time when many couples will try something new in the bedroom, indulging in some type of fantasy.

Many people, including Latinos, have fantasies involving role-playing, fetishes and bondage. Growing up in Hispanic, our culture has traditional roles of men being dominant and women being submissive. Why not pull a switch-a-roo and have the ladies be dominant.

BDSM (Bondage. Discipline. Sadism. Masochism) is a form of consensual role play between two or more individuals, who use their experiences of pain and power to create sexual tension, pleasure, and release.  It’s a great way to build a strong sexual foundation and a interpersonal relationship between you and your Latin lover.

As the song by the Divinyl’s goes,”It’s a fine line between pleasure and pain…you’ve done it once, you will do it again…”

An important thing to remember is that BDSM is NOT a crime. The fundamental principles of this practice require that it be performed by mature and responsible partners, of their own volition, and in a safe way.

This mutual consent makes a clear legal and ethical distinction between BDSM and crimes such as sexual assault or domestic violence.

Plus, it is always possible for one of the consenting partners to withdraw his or her consent at any time by using a “safe word” that was agreed upon in advance.

With that said, there are many ways Latinas can participate in safe, fun and very erotic BDSM adventures. You may remember the boy in the corner who purposely forgets his homework simply so the teacher will teach him a lesson, and remember that bossy girl who makes fun of the weak kids. These folks could easily grow into the kinkiest and erotically in-tune adults, and maybe one day find each other.

Once you figure out the roles, start small. Maybe one of you has some specific requests, a foot fetish or blindfolds perhaps? Someone with a foot fetish would prefer sexy shoes or boots, or someone who likes to be blindfolded may require a selection of soft eye covers.

Want to try some bondage? Then get some sexy restraints. You can get wrist cuffs and ankle cuffs that can be used to hold your partner to a chair, post, the bed etc. You can also try some silky bondage rope. Get a book on different rope tying techniques and then practice tying each other up and having your way with them.

Role-playing is another way to explore your BDSM side. Be the sexy Catholic school girl, the naughty nurse or sassy secretary and let your “Don Juan” transform into the horny fireman or police officer. The sailor and the prostitute is also a great role-playing fantasy.

Keep trying new things and explore each other and remember – have fun! Feliz Dia de los Novios.

Sex y La Viejita

I’m sure you get the ‘heebie jeebies’ thinking about grandma and grandpa knocking boots, right? So do I. How can sweet grandma, who makes tortillas and makes chorizo burritos, get busy with “tata”?

You’ll be surprised.

When we think of senior citizens having sex we automatically think of negative stereotypes: The dirty old geezer or the horny old lady. The issue, however, is that many seniors come to accept these stereotypes as true, and they then risk losing one of the most important parts of their lives and their health. Whether or not we want to acknowledge it sex after 60 is a MUST for seniors, and they are doing it more than you know or want to admit.

“The reality is that older people are a lot sexier than younger people think. The common notion is that when you are old you don’t - and maybe shouldn’t - have sex. Our studies have shown that older people are sexier in attitude and performance than they have been credited for,” said Dr. Walter M. Bortz II, author of “We Love Too Short and Die Too Long”.

And if you didn’t believe what he said, check out what this doctor had to say. “You must realize that in the U.S. the biggest use of prostitutes is on the day Social Security checks come out,” concluded Dr. John Morley, director of the division of geriatric medicine at St. 
Louis University.

Stalled Sexual Energy - I need a jump!

What can you do if your sexual pilot light has gone out? The answer may surprise you. It is communication. One of the problems with older people is there is even less talk about sex than there was before.

Communication can also help overcome another problem that plagues
seniors- feeling that nobody will find their older body sexy. Self- image is important regardless of age. Once self-esteem is better, a person can begin to explore his or her newfound sexuality. A good starting point for both men and women is masturbation.

Sex and the Older Woman

Not surprisingly, maintaining sexual function is different for men and women. For men, the concern centers mostly on erections, whereas for women the concern is in opportunity. Older women tend to think that sex lives end once the husbands pass away. This is not the case.

If a young woman doesn’t have a man in her life, she goes out and finds one. She is actively looking.. However, there is this paradigm for older women that once their partner has died it is all over for them. It is a nostalgic, romantic image. Regardless of age, physical touching and romance should be with all of us until the last twinkle.

One of the disincentives for women is painful intercourse due to thinning of the vaginal tissues as estrogen levels decline. As a result, it is suggested that older women use lubricants. Water-based, not silicone is recommended.

It’s Go Time!

One thing to remember is ALWAYS practice safe sex, and no matter how old we are, we are still sexual beings. Sex is an important component and we should enjoy it at 20, 30, 50, 80 years old. Okay so at 80, we won’t be using the swing, but we can make do with a walker or a wheelchair.