Our Resident Expert Goes Where Few Latinas Have Dared Tread — Toys 101

From Contributing Blogger Yvonne Silva

Buenos Dias, Powerful Latinas!

Your resident sexpert here bringing you some more great tidbits and advice to spice up your love life and add extra “sabor” to your bedroom. As if a powerful Latina needed more, right? I’d figure we’d go back to school for this week’s lesson: Sex Toys 101 – Jugetes de Placer.

Someone asked me the other day “what is the difference between a dildo and a vibrator?” I explained to this person that a vibrator buzzes while a dildo doesn’t.

This got me thinking about the categories of sex toys. More importantly, how many people don’t know the difference. It is important to understand the categories available so that you and your partner can make an informed buying decision.

Personally speaking, I would much rather know what I need then having to ask the toothless sales guy behind the counter. Just saying.

Before I forget, I would like to educate you on the terminology we use at Onjenoo:

‘C-Spot’ stands for clitoris. ‘G-spot’ is self-explanatory. As are ‘Internal stimulation’, ‘inside’ or ‘V-spot’.

You may read the words ‘vagina’ or ‘vaginally’, but only in a clinical reference.

‘Member’ ,‘manhood’, ’shaft’ is referred to the male penis, and my favorite letter,

‘O’, stands for orgasms not Oprah.

You will see the words ‘penis’, ‘cock’ and ‘vagina’ in tonight’s post. I did try to use the Onjenoo terminology, but it just didn’t look right to write ‘member ring’ as opposed to ‘cock ring’.

Butt, Butt, Butt: Anal Toys

Anal sex toys come in the forms of butt plugs, anal probes, anal beads, anal lubricants, and vibrating versions of plugs and probes. An anal toy will always have a wider base or a T-shaped support. This is so the toy will not get lost in the shuffle and can come out easily. It’s not fun having to trek down to the Emergency Room at 2 a.m. asking for assistance in removing an object from your bum.

Tie Me Up! Tie Me Down! BDSM (Bondage & Discipline, Sadism & Masochism) Toys

You may remember my last article on BDSM for beginners where I said that bondage toys are very popular with couples reaching out to new sexual fantasies.

These toys can include gags, blindfolds, clamps, leashes, cuffs, paddles, floggers, restraints, tickler and whips.

For those more adventurous, there electro sex machines that are designed specifically for electronic sexual stimulation are available. As are medical devices such as speculums, Whartenburg wheel and forceps for those who really want to play doctor.

Bend Over: Dildos and Strap-Ons

Dildos come in different shapes, sizes, and materials. These toys are not meant to vibrate. There are traditional, extra long, double header, glass, and realistic dildos and are made with different materials from jelly, rubber, to cyberskin and silicone.

A Strap-On is a dildo designed to be worn, usually with a harness, during sexual intercourse and can be used for a wide variety of sexual activities, including solo or mutual masturbation, as well as penetrative oral, anal, or vaginal sex.

Men’s Locker Room: Toys for Boys

When shopping for sex toys, men’s toys are often just strewn about here and there as an easily overlooked accessory. Sex toys for a man often include cock rings, penis pumps, vagina and anus masturbators, love dolls, condoms, lubes and more.

There have been many more products made for men’s sexual pleasure in the past few years, including an explosion in options for prostate stimulating tools, and various sex toy sleeves for masturbation. There are even silicone hand-job sleeves for woman to use with their men. Wow! Talk about lending a hand.

What’s The Buzz? All About Vibrators

Vibrator is the most popular type of sex toy. C-spot and G-Spot Vibrators add an exciting dimension to any intimate relationship. Popular shows such as “Sex and the City” help make vibrators, especially Rabbit vibrators, one of the best sellers at Onjenoo.

Our customers find adding controllable stimulation to their c-spot, penis, G-spot and well just about any erogenous zone adds a new pleasure dimension.

From the Box to the Bedroom to the Nightstand: Maintenance and Care of Toys

Sex Toy Maintenance - If you have one sex toy or a hundred, it makes sense to keep them properly so you really get your money’s worth, proper maintenance and storage of your sex toy will ensure a long and happy life, follow these steps to ensure you get the most pleasure from your toy.

Before you use your sex toy for the first time inspect it closely for any damage or imperfections, discovering a rough edge early could avoid a very painful moment later! If you notice any imperfections on your product then contact where you bought it from.

Check every aspect of the toy including buttons, battery box, motors and the surface before you using it for the first time. Always use fresh batteries in your new sex toy.

Storing Sex Toys - The way you store your sex toy determines the lifespan it has. Always store your toy in a cool dry place. The basic things to remember when storing your toy after use is to always take out any batteries, bullets or removable parts when you put it away to avoid leakages or damage, always clean and dry your sex toy after use to stop mould or bacteria growing on it and always keep your toys in a cool dry place out of direct sunlight, like under your bed, in a drawer or in a wardrobe wrapped in a towel or a T-shirt.

If you have more than one sex toy keep them wrapped individually before they are stored so that they are not coming into contact with each other as some sex toy materials can be damaging to one another. When cleaning your toy, always use sex toy cleaner and not a household soap, like dishwasher soap or detergent.

Replacing Sex Toys - Sex toys sadly do not last forever so replacing them is inevitable eventually. Be on the lookout for the signs which say it is time to replace your sex toy, check for the obvious things such as tears and cracks on the surface of the sex toy, and also keep an eye on the mechanics of the sex toy, is it working slower than usual, even after the batteries have changed or is it acting strange? If the answer is yes the safe option is to safely dispose of your sex toy and buy a new one.

You can prolong the life of your sex toy by keeping it clean and storing it properly but depending on how often it is used, some sex toys can last a month, others years.

Tie Me Up. Tie Me Down this Valentine’s Day! Find Your Passion & Release the Dominatrix

A spicy dinner, red balloons, roses, sexy music and chocolate-covered strawberries, love is definitely in air. February is the month where the cherubic winged-little person works overtime… and so do the chocolate factories.

The day is February 14 (or Dia de los Novios) and on this day Latinos are expressing their love for each other. It is also a time when many couples will try something new in the bedroom, indulging in some type of fantasy.

Many people, including Latinos, have fantasies involving role-playing, fetishes and bondage. Growing up in Hispanic, our culture has traditional roles of men being dominant and women being submissive. Why not pull a switch-a-roo and have the ladies be dominant.

BDSM (Bondage. Discipline. Sadism. Masochism) is a form of consensual role play between two or more individuals, who use their experiences of pain and power to create sexual tension, pleasure, and release.  It’s a great way to build a strong sexual foundation and a interpersonal relationship between you and your Latin lover.

As the song by the Divinyl’s goes,”It’s a fine line between pleasure and pain…you’ve done it once, you will do it again…”

An important thing to remember is that BDSM is NOT a crime. The fundamental principles of this practice require that it be performed by mature and responsible partners, of their own volition, and in a safe way.

This mutual consent makes a clear legal and ethical distinction between BDSM and crimes such as sexual assault or domestic violence.

Plus, it is always possible for one of the consenting partners to withdraw his or her consent at any time by using a “safe word” that was agreed upon in advance.

With that said, there are many ways Latinas can participate in safe, fun and very erotic BDSM adventures. You may remember the boy in the corner who purposely forgets his homework simply so the teacher will teach him a lesson, and remember that bossy girl who makes fun of the weak kids. These folks could easily grow into the kinkiest and erotically in-tune adults, and maybe one day find each other.

Once you figure out the roles, start small. Maybe one of you has some specific requests, a foot fetish or blindfolds perhaps? Someone with a foot fetish would prefer sexy shoes or boots, or someone who likes to be blindfolded may require a selection of soft eye covers.

Want to try some bondage? Then get some sexy restraints. You can get wrist cuffs and ankle cuffs that can be used to hold your partner to a chair, post, the bed etc. You can also try some silky bondage rope. Get a book on different rope tying techniques and then practice tying each other up and having your way with them.

Role-playing is another way to explore your BDSM side. Be the sexy Catholic school girl, the naughty nurse or sassy secretary and let your “Don Juan” transform into the horny fireman or police officer. The sailor and the prostitute is also a great role-playing fantasy.

Keep trying new things and explore each other and remember – have fun! Feliz Dia de los Novios.

Sex y La Viejita

I’m sure you get the ‘heebie jeebies’ thinking about grandma and grandpa knocking boots, right? So do I. How can sweet grandma, who makes tortillas and makes chorizo burritos, get busy with “tata”?

You’ll be surprised.

When we think of senior citizens having sex we automatically think of negative stereotypes: The dirty old geezer or the horny old lady. The issue, however, is that many seniors come to accept these stereotypes as true, and they then risk losing one of the most important parts of their lives and their health. Whether or not we want to acknowledge it sex after 60 is a MUST for seniors, and they are doing it more than you know or want to admit.

“The reality is that older people are a lot sexier than younger people think. The common notion is that when you are old you don’t - and maybe shouldn’t - have sex. Our studies have shown that older people are sexier in attitude and performance than they have been credited for,” said Dr. Walter M. Bortz II, author of “We Love Too Short and Die Too Long”.

And if you didn’t believe what he said, check out what this doctor had to say. “You must realize that in the U.S. the biggest use of prostitutes is on the day Social Security checks come out,” concluded Dr. John Morley, director of the division of geriatric medicine at St. 
Louis University.

Stalled Sexual Energy - I need a jump!

What can you do if your sexual pilot light has gone out? The answer may surprise you. It is communication. One of the problems with older people is there is even less talk about sex than there was before.

Communication can also help overcome another problem that plagues
seniors- feeling that nobody will find their older body sexy. Self- image is important regardless of age. Once self-esteem is better, a person can begin to explore his or her newfound sexuality. A good starting point for both men and women is masturbation.

Sex and the Older Woman

Not surprisingly, maintaining sexual function is different for men and women. For men, the concern centers mostly on erections, whereas for women the concern is in opportunity. Older women tend to think that sex lives end once the husbands pass away. This is not the case.

If a young woman doesn’t have a man in her life, she goes out and finds one. She is actively looking.. However, there is this paradigm for older women that once their partner has died it is all over for them. It is a nostalgic, romantic image. Regardless of age, physical touching and romance should be with all of us until the last twinkle.

One of the disincentives for women is painful intercourse due to thinning of the vaginal tissues as estrogen levels decline. As a result, it is suggested that older women use lubricants. Water-based, not silicone is recommended.

It’s Go Time!

One thing to remember is ALWAYS practice safe sex, and no matter how old we are, we are still sexual beings. Sex is an important component and we should enjoy it at 20, 30, 50, 80 years old. Okay so at 80, we won’t be using the swing, but we can make do with a walker or a wheelchair.